Monday, December 31, 2018

When You Feel Overwhelmed

When You Feel Overwhelmed

When you feel worried and stressed withdraw to a quiet place and talk to Jesus about the needs of your family and friends.
by Sharon Hinck

But now even more the report about him went abroad, and great crowds gathered to hear him and to be healed of their infirmities. But he would withdraw to desolate places and pray. Luke 5:15–16 (ESV)

“There’s not enough of me to go around,” I told my husband. A friend’s father had died, and I wanted to make her a meal. I hadn’t talked to my grown kids in several days and wanted to check in with them. Another friend was facing tough medical issues, and I wanted to visit with her. In fact, everyone I knew was in a place of need.

My longing to help others soon transformed into worry, panic, and stress. Jesus must have felt similar pressure. People clamored for His help, and His compassionate heart never wanted to turn anyone away. He spent long days teaching, healing, comforting, and feeding those who came to Him. Yet when the needs arrived in a never-ending flood, He didn’t push harder, longer, or faster. He didn’t complain or draw attention to how exhausted and burdened He felt. Instead, He withdrew to pray.

When I’m feeling overwhelmed, I can remember Jesus’s example. I can step back to a place of quiet and pray. As I do that, He equips and strengthens me and brings new wisdom, showing me how to prioritize my efforts. He reminds me that the Body has many members, and together we can do His will. Most important, He deepens my reliance on Him. Of course there is not enough of me to help in every way I’d like. I’m not the Savior; He is. When we fret as if the burden of every human need is on our shoulders, let’s withdraw to a quiet place with our Lord. We don’t have to be enough. Jesus already is.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 40: The Way

For the LORD watches over THE WAY of the righteous, but THE WAY of the wicked will perish. ~Psalm 1:6

I have chosen THE WAY of truth; I have set my heart on your laws. ~Psalm 119:30

Do not set foot on the path of the wicked or walk in THE WAY of evil men. ~Proverbs 4:14

THE WAY of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice. ~Proverbs 12:15

In THE WAY of righteousness there is life; along that path is immortality. ~Proverbs 12:28

Jesus answered, I am THE WAY and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. ~John 14:6

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Sunday, December 30, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 39: Worship

WORSHIP the LORD in the splendor of his holiness; tremble before him, all the earth. ~Psalm 96:9

WORSHIP the LORD with gladness; come before him with joyful songs. ~Psalm 100:2

True worshipers will WORSHIP the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. ~John 4:23

God is spirit, and his worshipers must WORSHIP in spirit and in truth. John ~4:24

Offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of WORSHIP. ~Romans 12:1

Let us be thankful, and so WORSHIP God acceptably with reverence and awe. ~Hebrews 12:28

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Saturday, December 29, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 38: Freedom

I run in the path of your commands, for you have set my heart FREE. ~Psalm 119:32

So if the Son sets you FREE, you will be FREE indeed. ~John 8:36

Live as FREE men, but do not use your FREEDOM as a cover-up for evil; live as servants of God. ~1 Peter 2:16

In him and through faith in him we may approach God with FREEDOM and confidence. ~Ephesians 3:12

You, my brothers, were called to be FREE. But do not use your FREEDOM to indulge the sinful nature. ~Galatians 5:13

Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is FREEDOM. ~2 Corinthians 3:17

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Friday, December 28, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 37: Glory

The heavens declare the GLORY of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands. ~Psalm 19:1

GLORY to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men on whom his favor rests. ~Luke 2:14

If anyone is ashamed of me and my words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of him when he comes in his GLORY. ~Luke 9:26

Then Jesus said, "Did I not tell you that if you believed, you would see the GLORY of God?" ~John 11:40

For all have sinned and fall short of the GLORY of God. ~Romans 3:23

The Son is the radiance of God's GLORY and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word. ~Hebrews 1:3

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Thursday, December 27, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 36: Wisdom

Is not WISDOM found among the aged? Does not long life bring understanding? ~Job 12:12

To God belong WISDOM and power; counsel and understanding are his. ~Job 12:13

The mouth of the righteous man utters WISDOM, and his tongue speaks what is just. ~Psalm 37:30

For the LORD gives WISDOM, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. ~Proverbs 2:6

For the foolishness of God is wiser than man's WISDOM, and the weakness of God is stronger than man's strength. ~1 Corinthians 1:25

If any of you lacks WISDOM, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. ~James 1:5

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Wednesday, December 26, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 35: Wise

Listen to my instruction and be WISE; do not ignore it. ~Proverbs 8:33

Instruct a WISE man and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man and he will add to his learning. ~Proverbs 9:9

The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life, and he who wins souls is WISE. ~Proverbs 11:30

He who walks with the WISE grows WISE, but a companion of fools suffers harm. ~Proverbs 13:20

Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler; whoever is led astray by them is not WISE. ~Proverbs 20:1

Be very careful, then, how you live?not as unwise but as WISE. ~Ephesians 5:15

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Tuesday, December 25, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 34: Pray

But I tell you: Love your enemies and PRAY for those who persecute you. ~Matthew 5:44

Watch and PRAY so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak. ~Mark 14:38

I PRAY for them. I am not praying for the world, but for those you have given me, for they are yours. ~John 17:9

So what shall I do? I will PRAY with my spirit, but I will also PRAY with my mind. ~1 Corinthians 14:15

Dear friend, I PRAY that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. ~3 John 2

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Monday, December 24, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 33: Walk

Blessed is the man who does not WALK in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. ~Psalm 1:1

Even though I WALK through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me. ~Psalm 23:4

Teach me your way, O LORD, and I will WALK in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. ~Psalm 86:11

Blessed are they whose ways are blameless, who WALK according to the law of the LORD. ~Psalms 119:1

He holds victory in store for the upright, he is a shield to those whose WALK is blameless. ~Proverbs 2:7

I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never WALK in darkness, but will have the light of life. ~John 8:12

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Sunday, December 23, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 32: Listen

Hear my prayer, O God; LISTEN to the words of my mouth. ~Psalm 54:2

LISTEN, my son, accept what I say, and the years of your life will be many. ~Proverbs 4:10

My son, pay attention to my wisdom, LISTEN well to my words of insight. ~Proverbs 5:1

LISTEN to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise. ~Proverbs 19:20

We know that God does not LISTEN to sinners. He LISTENS to the godly man who does his will. ~John 9:31

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to LISTEN, slow to speak and slow to become angry. ~James 1:19

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Saturday, December 22, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 31: Save

For whoever wants to SAVE his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it. ~Matthew 16:25

For the Son of Man came to seek and to SAVE what was lost. ~Luke 19:10

For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to SAVE the world through him. ~John 3:17

Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to SAVE sinners. ~1 Timothy 1:15

Therefore he is able to SAVE completely those who come to God through him, because he always lives to intercede for them. ~Hebrews 7:25

What good is it, my brothers, if a man claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith SAVE him? ~James 2:14

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Friday, December 21, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 30: Praise

I will PRAISE you, O LORD, with all my heart; I will tell of all your wonders. ~Psalm 9:1

In God, whose word I PRAISE, in God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can mortal man do to me? ~Psalm 56:4

Out of the same mouth come PRAISE and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. ~James 3:10

PRAISE be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. ~Ephesians 1:3

How can you believe if you accept PRAISE from one another, yet make no effort to obtain the PRAISE that comes from the only God? ~John 5:44

Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring PRAISE to God. ~Romans 15:7

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Thursday, December 20, 2018

The Legend of Robin Redbreast

European Robin


The Legend of Robin Redbreast

On that first Christmas, it is said, the night was wrapped in a bitter chill. The small fire in the stable was nearly out, and the Mother Mary worried that her baby would be cold. she turned to the animals about her and asked them for help.

“Could you blow on the embers,” she asked the ox, “so the fire might continue to keep my son warm?”

But the ox lay sound asleep on the stable floor and did not hear her. Next, Mary asked the donkey to breathe life back into the fire, but the sleeping donkey did not hear Mary either. Nor did the horse or sheep. She wondered what to do.

Suddenly, Mary heard a fluttering of little wings. Looking up, she saw a plain, brown-colored little robin fly into the stall. This robin had heard Mary calling to the animals and had come to help her. He went over to the dying fire and flapped his wings hard.

His wings were like little bellows, huffing and puffing air onto the embers, until they glowed bright red again. He continued to fan the fire, singing all the while, until the ashes began to kindle.

With his beak, the robin picked up some fresh, dry sticks and tossed them into the fire. As he did, a flame suddenly burst forth and burned the little bird’s breast a bright red. But the robin simply continued to fan the fire until it crackled brightly and warmed the entire stable. The Baby Jesus slept happily.

Mary thanked and praised the robin for all he had done. She looked tenderly at his red breast, burned by the flame, and said, “From now on, let your red breast be a blessed reminder of your noble deed.”

And to this day, the robin’s red breast covers his humble heart.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 29: Submission

SUBMIT to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you. ~Job 22:21

The seventy-two returned with joy and said, "Lord, even the demons SUBMIT to us in your name." ~Luke 10:17

The sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not SUBMIT to God's law, nor can it do so. ~Romans 8:7

SUBMIT to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~Ephesians 5:21

Since you died with Christ to the basic principles of this world, why, as though you still belonged to it, do you SUBMIT to its rules? ~Colossians 2:20

SUBMIT yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. ~James 4:7

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Wednesday, December 19, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 28: Forgiveness

For the sake of your name, O LORD, FORGIVE my iniquity, though it is great. ~Psalm 25:11

Peter replied, "Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the FORGIVENESS of your sins." ~Acts 2:38

Therefore, my brothers, I want you to know that through Jesus the FORGIVENESS of sins is proclaimed to you. ~Acts 13:38

But if you do not FORGIVE men their sins, your Father will not FORGIVE your sins. ~Matthew 6:15

Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. FORGIVE, and you will be FORGIVEN. ~Luke 6:37

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will FORGIVE us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. ~1 John 1:9

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Tuesday, December 18, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 27: Mercy

Turn to me and have MERCY on me, as you always do to those who love your name. ~Psalm 119:132

He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds MERCY. ~Proverbs 28:13

Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown MERCY. ~Matthew 5:7

When he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to shout, "Jesus, Son of David, have MERCY on me!" ~Mark 10:47

Therefore God has MERCY on whom he wants to have MERCY, and he hardens whom he wants to harden. ~Romans 9:18

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Monday, December 17, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 26: Find

How priceless is your unfailing love! Both high and low among men FIND refuge in the shadow of your wings. ~Psalm 36:7

FIND rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. ~Psalm 62:5

But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few FIND it. ~Matthew 7:14

Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will FIND rest for your souls. ~Matthew 11:29

For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will FIND it. ~Matthew 16:25

So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will FIND; knock and the door will be opened to you. ~Luke 11:9

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Sunday, December 16, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 25: Seek

Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who SEEK you. ~Psalm 9:10

God looks down from heaven on the sons of men to see if there are any who understand, any who SEEK God. ~Psalm 53:2

Blessed are they who keep his statutes and SEEK him with all their heart. ~Psalm 119:2

Ask and it will be given to you; SEEK and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. ~Matthew 7:7

For the Son of Man came to SEEK and to save what was lost. ~Luke 19:10

God did this so that men would SEEK him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from each one of us. ~Acts 17:27

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Saturday, December 15, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 24: Peace

I will lie down and sleep in PEACE, for you alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety. ~Psalm 4:8

Turn from evil and do good; seek PEACE and pursue it. ~Psalm 34:14

Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have PEACE with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. ~Romans 5:1

The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and PEACE. ~Romans 8:6

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at PEACE with everyone. ~Romans 12:18

Grace and PEACE be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord. ~2 Peter 1:2

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Friday, December 14, 2018

The Legend of the Poinsettia

The Legend of the Poinsettia


In Mexico, the poinsettia is called flor de la Nochebuena (flower of the Holy Night). At Christmastime, the flower blooms and flourishes, the exquisite red stars lighting up the countryside. This Mexican legend tells how the poinsettia came to be, through a little girl's unselfish gift to the Christ Child.

There was once a poor Mexican girl named Pepita who had no present to give the the baby Jesus at the Christmas Eve services. As Pepita walked to the chapel, sadly, her cousin Pedro tried to cheer her up.

"Pepita," he said, "I'm sure that even the smallest gift, given by someone who loves Him, will make Jesus happy."

Pepita didn't know what she could give, so she picked a small handful of weeds from the roadside and made them into a a small bouquet. She felt embarrassed because she could only give this small present to Jesus. As she walked through the chapel to the altar, she remembered what Pedro had said. She began to feel better, knelt down and put the bouquet at the bottom of the Nativity scene. Suddenly, the bouquet of weeds burst into bright red flowers, and everyone who saw them were sure they had seen a miracle.

The shape of the poinsettia flower and leaves are sometimes thought to be a symbol of the Star of Bethlehem which led the Wise Men to Jesus. The red-colored leaves symbolize the blood of Christ. The white leaves represent His purity.

The poinsettia is the national emblem of Madagascar.

Did you know the poinsettia is named for Joel Roberts Poinsett, an American physician and diplomat?

After visiting an area south of Mexico City near Taxco de Alarcón, Poinsett saw what later became known in the United States as the poinsettia. Poinsett, an avid amateur botanist, sent samples of the plant to the U.S., and by 1836 the plant was widely known as the "poinsettia." Also a species of Mexican lizard, Sceloporus poinsettii, is named in Poinsett's honor.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 23: Grace

For the law was given through Moses; GRACE and truth came through Jesus Christ. ~John 1:17

The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet. The GRACE of our Lord Jesus be with you. ~Romans 16:20

In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's GRACE. ~Ephesians 1:7

For it is by GRACE you have been saved, through faith--and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God. ~Ephesians 2:8

Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God's GRACE in its various forms. ~1 Peter 4:10

GRACE and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord. ~2 Peter 1:2

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Thursday, December 13, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 22: Heart

Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your HEART. ~Psalm 37:4

Create in me a pure HEART, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. ~Psalm 51:10

Trust in the LORD with all your HEART and lean not on your own understanding. ~Proverbs 3:5

Above all else, guard your HEART, for it is the wellspring of life. ~Proverbs 4:23

For out of the HEART come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. ~Matthew 15:19

For where your treasure is, there your HEART will be also. ~Luke 12:34

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Wednesday, December 12, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 21: Faith

Therefore, since we have been justified through FAITH, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. ~Romans 5:1

In him and through FAITH in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence. ~Ephesians 3:12

Now FAITH is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. ~Hebrews 11:1

In the same way, FAITH by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. ~James 2:17

This righteousness from God comes through FAITH in Jesus Christ to all who believe. ~Romans 3:22

We live by FAITH, not by sight. ~2 Corinthians 5:7

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Tuesday, December 11, 2018

The Legend of the Candy Cane

The Legend of the Candy Cane




A confectioner wanted to make a candy that would be a reminder of Jesus Christ, so he made the Christmas candy cane. He started with a stick of pure white hard candy. The white color symbolized the Virgin Birth and the sinless nature of Jesus. The hard candy symbolized the solid rock, which was the foundation of the church, and the firmness of the promises of God.

The candymaker made the candy in the form of a "J," which represented the name of Jesus and the staff of the Good Shepherd. He then stained it with three stripes which showed the scourging Jesus received, and symbolized the blood shed by Christ on the cross. When you break the cane, it reminds us that Jesus' body was broken for us.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 20: Believe

I write these things to you who BELIEVE in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life. ~1 John 5:13

Whoever BELIEVES and is baptized will be saved, but whoever does not BELIEVE will be condemned. ~Mark 16:16

"Yes, Lord," she told him, "I BELIEVE that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who was to come into the world." ~John 11:27

Then Jesus cried out, When a man believes in me, he does not BELIEVE in me only, but in the one who sent me. ~John 12:44

This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who BELIEVE. ~Romans 3:22

For it is with your heart that you BELIEVE and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. ~Romans 10:10

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Monday, December 10, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 19: Sin

The evil deeds of a wicked man ensnare him; the cords of his SIN hold him fast. ~Proverbs 5:22

For if you forgive men when they SIN against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. ~Matthew 6:14

Jesus replied, I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave to SIN. ~John 8:34

Therefore do not let SIN reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. ~Romans 6:12

Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to SIN; and SIN, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. ~James 1:15

If we claim to be without SIN, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. ~1 John 1:8

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Sunday, December 9, 2018

The Legend of the Sand Dollar

The Legend of the Sand Dollar




The Legend of the Sand Dollar is an Easter and Christmas favorite. On the front of the sand dollar are five slits representing the wounds on Christ when on the cross and the Easter lily with a star in the middle representing the Star of Bethlehem. On the back is the outline of a poinsettia, often called the Christmas flower. Once the sand dollar is broken open, the five "doves" are said to release good will and peace into the world.

A sand dollar "dove"

The Legend of the Sand Dollar

There’s a lovely little legend that I would like to tell,
of the birth and death of Jesus, found in this lowly shell.

If you examine closely, you’ll see that you find here,
four nail holes and a fifth one, made by a Roman’s spear.

On one side the Easter lily, its center is the star,
that appeared unto the shepherds and led them from afar.

The Christmas Poinsettia etched on the other side,
reminds us of His birthday, our happy Christmastide.

Now break the center open, and here you will release,
the five white doves awaiting, to spread Good Will and Peace.

This simple little symbol, Christ left for you and me,
to help us spread His Gospel, through all Eternity.

Make Almond Sand Dollar Cookies from The Monday Box.



They're yummy! If you don't care for almonds and almond extract, you can substitute pine nuts for the "star" decoration and vanilla extract.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 18: Evil

Turn from EVIL and do good; seek peace and pursue it. ~Psalm 34:14

Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun EVIL. ~Proverbs 3:7

But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow EVIL, there will be wrath and anger. ~Romans 2:8

Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its EVIL desires. ~Romans 6:12

When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by EVIL, nor does he tempt anyone. ~James 1:13

As obedient children, do not conform to the EVIL desires you had when you lived in ignorance. ~1 Peter 1:14

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Saturday, December 8, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 17: Spirit

Into your hands I commit my SPIRIT; redeem me, O LORD, the God of truth. ~Psalm 31:5

Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast SPIRIT within me. ~Psalm 51:10

Then Jesus was led by the SPIRIT into the desert to be tempted by the devil. ~Matthew 4:1

Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The SPIRIT is willing, but the body is weak. ~Matthew 26:41

(The KJV is my favorite translation of Matthew 26:41. "Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.")

When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in SPIRIT and troubled. ~John 11:33

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Friday, December 7, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 16: Holy Spirit

Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the HOLY SPIRIT. ~Matthew 28:19

But whoever blasphemes against the HOLY SPIRIT will never be forgiven; he is guilty of an eternal sin. ~Mark 3:29

Jesus, full of the HOLY SPIRIT, returned from the Jordan and was led by the Spirit in the desert. ~Luke 4:1

Then Peter and John placed their hands on them, and they received the HOLY SPIRIT. ~Acts 8:17

While Peter was still speaking these words, the HOLY SPIRIT came on all who heard the message. ~Acts 10:44

Do you not know that your body is a temple of the HOLY SPIRIT? ~1 Corinthians 6:19

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Thursday, December 6, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 15: Soul

My SOUL finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him. ~Psalm 62:1

A fool's mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his SOUL. ~Proverbs 18:7

Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the SOUL. ~Matthew 10:28

Jesus replied: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your SOUL and with all your mind. ~Matthew 22:37

What good is it for a man to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his SOUL ~Mark 8:36

Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your SOUL. ~1 Peter 2:11

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Wednesday, December 5, 2018

How to Pray Quietly with a Friend

How to Pray Quietly with a Friend

To know someone well is to know that you can be silent with them.
by Rick Hamlin

Do you ever sit with a friend and just pray in silence? No words shared, just the sense of God’s presence felt.

As I’ve written before, I use my commuting time on the subway for prayer. I even wrote a book about my spiritual journey called Finding God on the A Train.

One evening a week ago, as I was taking the A train home, I had my eyes closed and was meandering into a much needed meditative state.

Halfway home, the train stopped at 59th Street. I opened my eyes for a minute and noticed a neighbor get on and sit next to me. She had her ear buds plugged in and was listening to something.

She noticed me, and we both got ready to chat. But I could see from the expression on her face that she needed to keep listening to her ear buds—after a long day at work—and I didn’t really want to give up the prayer time.

“What are you listening to?” I asked. She described a book that was completely absorbing.

“I tell you what,” I said. “You keep listening, and I’ll go back to meditating and when we get to 145th Street, let’s chat.”

“Perfect,” she said.

To know someone well is to know that you can be silent with them. To sit in silence with God is a chance to know God well and let God know you.

At 145th I opened my eyes, and she took out her ear buds, and we caught up on our family’s news—her teenaged son’s worries about getting into college, my kids, our work.

We got off the train at 181st Street and walked home. “Thanks for that,” she said. “Thank you,” I said. Both of us grateful for our time together.

Sharing silence takes a good friend.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 14: Demons

And when the DEMON was driven out, the man who had been mute spoke. ~Matthew 9:33

Jesus rebuked the DEMON, and it came out of the boy, and he was healed from that moment. ~Matthew 17:18

But if I drive out DEMONS by the Spirit of God, then the kingdom of God has come upon you. ~Matthew 12:28

The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by DEMONS. ~1 Timothy 4:1

When Jesus had called the Twelve together, he gave them power and authority to drive out all DEMONS and to cure diseases. ~Luke 9:1

So he (Jesus) traveled throughout Galilee, preaching in their synagogues and driving out DEMONS. ~Mark 1:39

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Tuesday, December 4, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 13: Angels

Praise the LORD, you his ANGELS, you mighty ones who do his bidding, who obey his word. ~Psalm 103:20

The ANGEL of the LORD encamps around those who fear him, and he delivers them. ~Psalm 34:7

The ANGEL answered, I am Gabriel. I stand in the presence of God, and I have been sent to speak to you and to tell you this good news. ~Luke 1:19

But he who disowns me before men will be disowned before the ANGELS of God. ~Luke 12:9

Are not all ANGELS ministering spirits sent to serve those who will inherit salvation? ~Hebrews 1:14

Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained ANGELS without knowing it. ~Hebrews 13:2

(The KJV is my favorite translation of Hebrews 13:2. It's more poetic. "Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.")

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Monday, December 3, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 12: Satan and Devil

Jesus said to him, Away from me, SATAN! For it is written: 'Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only.' ~Matthew 4:10

Then SATAN entered Judas, called Iscariot, one of the Twelve. ~Luke 22:3

As soon as Judas took the bread, SATAN entered into him. "What you are about to do, do quickly," Jesus told him. ~John 13:27

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the DEVIL, and he will flee from you. ~James 4:7

Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the DEVIL prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. ~1 Peter 5:8

The great dragon was hurled down?that ancient serpent called the DEVIL, or SATAN, who leads the whole world astray. ~Revelation 12:9

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Sunday, December 2, 2018

A Mysterious Dog Cured Her Loneliness

A Mysterious Dog Cured Her Loneliness

This Yorkie had emerged from the woods and rain. But who had sent him?
by Patricia Thomas

I was making my morning coffee in the kitchen and wondering how I would get through the day, especially with the rain coming down, when Tony’s picture toppled from the mantle in the family room. Again. Ever since my husband died two years earlier, that gold-framed photo—Tony posing with his prize hunting dogs—kept falling. That wasn’t all that was happening. Sometimes the TV would turn on out of the blue. And I’d get this feeling that Tony was still with me. Was it just the wishful thinking of a lonely widow? I couldn’t be sure.

I picked up the frame, dusted it off and put it back in place. I stared out the window that flanked the fireplace, thinking of Tony. If only he really were still here. I needed him now more than ever. It had been the most difficult two years of my life. Not only had Tony died of liver failure. My mom died around the same time too. Then came more bad news. The night before, my brother called. He’d been planning on moving into my spare room. Not anymore.

“I have cancer, Patricia,” he told me on the phone. “It’s terminal.”

This wasn’t how I’d pictured my golden years. Tony and I had had big plans. I was a photographer and drug addiction counselor. Tony was a Vietnam vet who’d risen through the ranks to become a master chief petty officer in the Navy. We’d moved around a lot, every three years to a new naval base. It didn’t matter where we lived as long as we were together. After Tony retired, we decided to settle in one place for good. Tony was a country boy who loved nothing more than biscuits with gravy and Hank Williams. We moved into a farmhouse on 55 acres in north Georgia. I imagined a lifetime of sipping sweet tea on the back porch, while Tony spun yarns about coon hunting. His dream was to raise champion hunting dogs. Meanwhile, I had my heart set on getting a sweet little Yorkie.

“Can’t I talk you into a beagle or Lab?” Tony said, poking fun at my choice of a dog, one that could fit in my handbag. Yorkies weren’t exactly farm dogs. But I’d wanted one since I was a kid.

“You enjoy your hounds,” I said. “I’m getting a Yorkie.”

We had so many plans, so many dreams. But some months after we’d moved in, I found Tony on the porch, looking unsettled. “Doc says my liver is failing,” he said. “I’ll need a transplant.”

Like many soldiers who’d served in Vietnam, Tony had contracted hepatitis C and been exposed to Agent Orange. In my eyes, he’d always been invincible—a larger-than-life Southern gentleman, as tough as they come. I didn’t want to believe he could die. For eight months, we waited for a donor match. My mom, meanwhile, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I stayed up night after night, researching both Tony and Mom’s conditions, hoping to find some detail the doctors might’ve missed. Finally Tony got a transplant. He recovered sooner than expected and was home in no time. But the victory was short-lived. Two months later, Tony suffered a massive blood clot and died. He was only 60. And Mom was gone too.

Our farmhouse, which had once been so lively and filled with laughter, was eerily quiet. So dark and empty. There was no one to greet me when I came home from work. No one to sit with on the back porch. No one to walk with around our property. These were the saddest two years of my life. And now my brother was sick too. I didn’t want to go through another battle all alone. I didn’t want to watch another person I loved die. I stared out the window at the rain, which was coming down even heavier now. I was about to head back to the kitchen when I happened to notice movement. Something small and furry emerged from the woods in the backyard. It trotted right up to the house.

I set my coffee cup on the counter, grabbed my raincoat and dashed outside. The animal darted back into the woods. I knelt and waited, staying calm. A minute later, a dog came running out. He pressed against my knees and looked up at me. He was shivering, his brown fur matted and covered in mud. But there was no mistaking him.

A Yorkie. The kind that could fit in a handbag. I stared at the dog in amazement. Yorkies were relatively rare, an expensive breed. My house was surrounded by 300 acres of woods and farmland, without another house for miles. So what was this dog doing on my property? How had he survived in woods full of coyotes?

I carried him into the house and dried him off. The Yorkie made himself right at home. He curled up at my feet on the porch. He followed me from room to room in the house. And I swear he cracked a doggie smile when I played Hank Williams. The dog had no collar, no tags. I asked around in town. Posted his photo online. Nobody had lost a Yorkie. No one came looking for him. He was mine to keep. I named him Hank. He never left my side.

Just as devoted as the one who’d sent him.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 11: Heaven

Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of HEAVEN. ~Matthew 5:10

Whoever acknowledges me before men, I will also acknowledge him before my Father in HEAVEN. ~Matthew 10:32

But whoever disowns me before men, I will disown him before my Father in HEAVEN. ~Matthew 10:33

Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of HEAVEN. ~Matthew 18:4

However, do not rejoice that the spirits submit to you, but rejoice that your names are written in HEAVEN. ~Luke 10:20v

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Saturday, December 1, 2018

Stay Focused on Your Faith

Stay Focused on Your Faith

Don't become so absorbed in your faith that you are sidetracked from what is most important.
by Gwen Ford Faulkenberry

"I determined not to know anything among you, save Jesus Christ, and him crucified." --1 Corinthians 2:2 (KJV)

This is a difficult verse for me, a difficult challenge of Paul’s. Because if I understand Paul correctly, it’s all about Jesus. That seems to be all He cares about.

I love Jesus. I do. Jesus fascinates me. I feel His love all around me and through me. I see His miracles in the world. But while I am a Christian and have pledged my allegiance to Jesus and His teachings, there are other things I want to know. I’m a scholar. An academic. I’m a writer, and something of an activist. There are causes I believe in. Many things I want to address as a teacher trying to make the world a better place.

I’m reminded of a story I once heard Max Lucado tell. He said that his wife sent him to the store to pick up bread. On the way to the bread aisle he saw cookies. So he put them into his basket. And thoughts of cookies led him to the milk, so he picked up milk. When he got home, he showed his wife the cookies and milk and invited her to a sweet little feast. “But, Max, where’s the bread?” she asked him. I’m like this. While my ultimate goal is to know Jesus, I can get sidetracked by other things that seem—and are—important.

If I’m not careful, I can become so absorbed in learning information, even supporting good causes, that I forget the most important thing, the only thing that really matters for me or anyone else. Jesus.

The Meaning of the Snowman


The Meaning of the Snowman


The white snow represent God's forgiveness of our sins.
The circular snowballs show the everlasting life God promises us.
The carrot nose shows us that God has given us the Earth and all living things.
The black coal mouth reminds us to give God praise.
The scarf keeps us warm, just as God's love does.
The top hat reminds us to honor God above all things.
The twig arms are open to hold us the way God does when we need Him.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 10: World

For God so loved the WORLD that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. ~John 3:16

When he comes, he will convict the WORLD of guilt in regard to sin and righteousness and judgment. ~John 16:8

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this WORLD, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. ~Romans 12:2

For God did not send his Son into the WORLD to condemn the WORLD, but to save the WORLD through him. ~John 3:17

The WORLD and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever. ~1 John 2:17

Who is it that overcomes the WORLD? Only he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God. ~1 John 5:5

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Friday, November 30, 2018

George MacDonald: The Fantasy Writer Who Shaped C.S. Lewis, J. R.R. Tolkien and Madeleine L’Engle

George MacDonald: The Fantasy Writer Who Shaped C.S. Lewis, J. R.R. Tolkien and Madeleine L’Engle

How little-known writer George MacDonald transformed the fantasy genre.
by Alikay Wood

One nineteenth century man defined fantasy writing for a generation of writers. W.H. Auden called him “one of the most remarkable writers of the nineteenth century.” G.K. Chesterton said his writing “made a difference to my whole existence.” C.S. Lewis referred to him as his “master.” He was close friends with Mark Twain and Lewis Carroll. His name? George MacDonald.

MacDonald wrote prolifically during his life—publishing more than 50 books and numerous essays. His most well-known books Phantastes, The Princess and the Goblin and Lilith, were groundbreaking works that used the medium of fantasy to explore faith and the human condition.

His books did not sell particularly well while he was alive, but later writers preserved his literary style for future generations. Here are a few authors who credited MacDonald with influencing their work:

Lewis Carroll
Lewis Carroll, the creator of Alice in Wonderland, was a close friend of the MacDonald family. In 1863, Carroll brought MacDonald a draft of a story he was working on about a girl named Alice who fell down a hole and went on an adventure. MacDonald gave the story to his wife and children to read—they loved it. MacDonald advised Carroll to lengthen the story and encouraged him to publish it. Carroll was also a photographer and took pictures of many of MacDonald’s 11 children.

C.S. Lewis
MacDonald died before C.S. Lewis had heard of him, but had a direct impact on Lewis’ faith and work. Lewis referred to MacDonald as his story “master.” In particular, MacDonald’s book Phantastes, had a huge influence on Lewis’ faith. He wrote about the experience in his book, Surprised by Joy, “It is as if I were carried sleeping across the frontier, or as if I had died in the old country and could never remember how I came alive in the new.” Lewis admired MacDonald so much he put together a spiritual collection of MacDonald’s words called George MacDonald: An Anthology. Lewis wrote, “I have never written a book in which I did not quote from him.” Many readers came to know of MacDonald’s work because of Lewis.

J.R.R. Tolkien
Although he would later criticize MacDonald’s work for being too moralizing (something he also criticized in his own novel The Hobbit), scholars believe MacDonald influenced Tolkien’s stories. Tolkien enjoyed some of MacDonald’s fantasy stories when he was young and read The Princess and the Goblin to his children. Tolkien said that MacDonald’s goblins and talking trees may have had a “remote” influence on the ents and orcs that inhabit his Lord of the Rings series.

Madeleine L’Engle
Madeleine L’Engle’s seminal work A Wrinkle in Time follows in the steps of Lewis and MacDonald by using using the genre of fantasy to explore faith. She said MacDonald gave her “renewed strength during times of struggle.” L’Engle even wrote an essay about how his work influenced her view of God called “George MacDonald: Nourishment for a Private World.” She called MacDonald “the grandfather of us all–all of us who struggle to come to terms with truth through imagination.”

MacDonald was not well-known in his lifetime, but his faith and legacy live on in the generations of writers he inspired with his fantastical stories.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 9: No One

The LORD redeems his servants; NO ONE will be condemned who takes refuge in him. ~Psalm 34:22

Great is the LORD and most worthy of praise; his greatness NO ONE can fathom. ~Psalm 145:3

In reply Jesus declared, I tell you the truth, NO ONE can see the kingdom of God unless he is born again. ~John 3:3

I have come into the world as a light, so that NO ONE who believes in me should stay in darkness. ~John 12:46

When tempted, NO ONE should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone. ~James 1:13

NO ONE has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. ~1 John 4:12

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Thursday, November 29, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 8: The Word

For THE WORD of the LORD is right and true; he is faithful in all he does. ~Psalm 33:4

As for God, his way is perfect; THE WORD of the LORD is flawless. ~Psalm 18:30

Do not merely listen to THE WORD, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. ~James 1:22

Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept THE WORD planted in you, which can save you. ~James 1:21

He replied, Blessed rather are those who hear THE WORD of God and obey it. ~Luke 11:28

Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through THE WORD of Christ. ~Romans 10:17

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Wednesday, November 28, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 7: Righteousness

Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still; teach a RIGHTEOUS man and he will add to his learning. ~Proverbs 9:9

For surely, O LORD, you bless the RIGHTEOUS; you surround them with your favor as with a shield. ~Psalm 5:12

I have not come to call the RIGHTEOUS, but sinners to repentance. ~Luke 5:32

The truly RIGHTEOUS man attains life, but he who pursues evil goes to his death. ~Proverbs 11:19

For man's anger does not bring about the RIGHTEOUS life that God desires. ~James 1:20

The prayer of a RIGHTEOUS man is powerful and effective. ~James 5:16

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Tuesday, November 27, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 6: Kingdom

Your KINGDOM is an everlasting KINGDOM, and your dominion endures through all generations. ~Psalm 145:13

In reply Jesus declared, I tell you the truth, no one can see the KINGDOM of God unless he is born again. ~John 3:3

He said to them, When you pray, say: Father, hallowed be your name, your KINGDOM come. ~Luke 11:2

But if I drive out demons by the finger of God, then the KINGDOM of God has come to you. ~Luke 11:20

The time has come, he said. The KINGDOM of God is near. Repent and believe the good news! ~Mark 1:15

Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the KINGDOM of heaven. ~Matthew 18:4

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Monday, November 26, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 5: Light

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a LIGHT for my path. ~Psalm 119:105

The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of LIGHT. ~Matthew 6:22

Everyone who does evil hates the LIGHT, and will not come into the LIGHT for fear that his deeds will be exposed. ~John 3:20

Put your trust in the LIGHT while you have it, so that you may become sons of LIGHT. ~John 12:36

For you were once darkness, but now you are LIGHT in the Lord. Live as children of LIGHT. ~Ephesians 5:8

This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is LIGHT; in him there is no darkness at all. ~1 John 1:5

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Sunday, November 25, 2018

Seven Ways to Experience the Comfort of Silence

Seven Ways to Experience the Comfort of Silence

How to step away from the busyness of life and immerse yourself in peace and quiet.
by Bob Hostetler

Silence is not just for introverts. Sure, I’m an introvert. And yes, my first prayer retreat to a monastery where silence was observed (except in corporate worship) was a prayer-life-altering experience for me. And okay, I took my extrovert wife along with me a couple years later to the monastery with fear and trepidation, unsure whether she would survive four days and three nights of silence.

But that’s when she and I both discovered that silence is a boon for everyone: introverts, extroverts and ambiverts.

Don’t believe me? Try it. You’ll probably be surprised at the effects of silence, even if you never take a silent retreat. Here are a few tips for beginners:

1)  Don’t Be Afraid
Silence can be intimidating at first, simply because you’re not used to it. How often do you experience real silence? Hardly ever, as we’re constantly surrounded by muzak, traffic sounds, radio and television, etc. But no matter how strange it may seem at first, try embracing the quiet.

2)  Start Small
Find a quiet place and set the timer on your phone for five minutes. Try spending those minutes without external stimuli. Your mind may whirl frantically in the silence, but that’s okay. With time, your brain will begin to make adjustments.

3)  Breathe
One way to channel mental distractions is to focus your mind on your breathing. Inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth. Feel your lungs expand. Let your breathing affect your posture. Make each breath a one-word prayer, perhaps asking God to “fill” your life with good things as you inhale and “cleanse” you of stress, fear, or illness as you exhale.

4)  Try a Daily or Weekly Technology Fast
Instead of reading on your smart phone during lunch, try eating in silence, savoring every bite. Or program your phone to block calls and your computer to “sleep” for a certain period every day; use that time to slow down, breathe deeply and think freely. You might even fast from technology on your day off or all weekend—people survive such rigors, you know.

5)  Take a Walk
Find a park or woodland path, silence your phone and take a stroll. When’s the last time you actually strolled?

6)  Observe
Freedom from aural stimuli can focus other senses. So, while you spend time in silence, set your other senses free. Notice the shapes and colors that surround you. Touch different textures. Breathe deeply of various scents.

7)  Write
Silence need not mean inactivity. You may find (as I always do) that a little silence ignites your creativity and organizes your mind. Keep a pen and notebook handy to write down ideas, memories and prayers that occur to you in the silence.

After her first day at the silent monastery, my wife was alone in her private room and heard talking in the hall (where people were supposed to maintain the silence). She tried to be patient, but the “noise” soon disturbed her so much, she opened the door and shot a look at the offenders! She told me afterward of how surprised she was to learn that silence had so quickly become so important to her in that place. I nodded. I understood completely.

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 4: Hope

Know also that wisdom is sweet to your soul; if you find it, there is a future HOPE for you. ~Proverbs 24:14

You are my refuge and my shield; I have put my HOPE in your word. ~Psalm 119:114

Be strong and take heart, all you who HOPE in the LORD. ~Psalm 31:24

Be joyful in HOPE, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. ~Romans 12:12

Now faith is being sure of what we HOPE for and certain of what we do not see. ~Hebrews 11:1

In his name the nations will put their HOPE. ~Matthew 12:21

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Saturday, November 24, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 3: Truth

The man who says, "I know him," but does not do what he commands is a liar, and the TRUTH is not in him. ~1 John 2:4

They exchanged the TRUTH of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator. ~Romans 1:25

But when he, the Spirit of TRUTH, comes, he will guide you into all TRUTH. ~John 16:13

Jesus answered, I am the way and the TRUTH and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. ~John 14:6

Jesus replied, I tell you the TRUTH, everyone who sins is a slave to sin. ~John 8:34

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Friday, November 23, 2018

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 2: Trust

Those who know your name will TRUST in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you. ~Psalm 9:10

Do not let your hearts be troubled. TRUST in God; TRUST also in me. ~John 14:1

I will say of the LORD, "He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I TRUST." ~Psalm 91:2

Do not put your TRUST in princes, in mortal men, who cannot save. ~Psalm 146:3

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you TRUST in him. ~Romans 15:13

TRUST in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. ~Proverbs 3:5

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Thursday, November 22, 2018

How Knitting Can Inspire Prayer

How Knitting Can Inspire Prayer

There are many ways to invoke a meditative state by moving your hands.
by Bob Hostetler

A pen-and-ink study by German painter Albrecht Dürer in 1508 has endured as a popular depiction of prayer. A study for a larger work of art, it depicts two aged hands, clasped. The home I grew up in had a painting of it on the wall and a small statue of it on a shelf.

But there are other ways to pray with your hands. An episode of the popular BBC television show, Call the Midwife, portrayed one such practice.

In the final episode of the second season, nurse Chummy goes into labor herself, and soon is in such serious danger that she is taken to the hospital for surgery. The nurses and sisters of Nonnatus House sit together through a long and agonizing night, hoping and waiting. Conversation and prayer soon dwindle, but the women stay together, knitting small colorful blanket squares. The inexpressible meditations of their hearts and movements of their hands combine into a silent vigil, a concert of wordless prayer.

It’s an affecting scene, showing that it’s possible—and sometimes preferable—to pray by actively using your hands. When words fail, when emotions overwhelm, the click of knitting needles can turn into as heartfelt a prayer as any psalm.

Knitting, of course, isn’t the only way to pray with your hands. Many Christians through the ages and around the world have formed a prayer by tracing the sign of the cross with their fingers. A friend of mine occasionally expresses his needs with his hands in his wood shop, cutting and carving shapes that echo the cry of his heart. Some who are skilled in the use of sign language find deeper expressions of prayer in the use of their hands, whether or not they say a word. Others clap their hands in prayers of joy or lift their hands to the sky as if in so doing they can caress the face of God.

When my first grandson was born prematurely and placed in a small hospital incubator, my wife and I joined his parents in reaching fingers into the small space to stroke his limbs and—often silently—pray for him to gain strength. Though wordless, those prayers may have been among the most heartfelt and effective we’ve ever prayed, as the boy is now nearly 13 and as healthy and happy as we barely dared to imagine those few days in the hospital.

Do you pray with your hands? If so, how? If not, why not try it?

40 Days of Bible Verses by Word(s) or Theme(s): Day 1: Love

He who pursues righteousness and LOVE finds life, prosperity and honor. ~Proverbs 21:21

The LORD is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in LOVE. ~Psalm 145:8

Let those who LOVE the LORD hate evil, for he guards the lives of his faithful ones and delivers them from the hand of the wicked. ~Psalm 97:10

The entire law is summed up in a single command: "LOVE your neighbor as yourself." ~Galatians 5:14

LOVE must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. ~Romans 12:9

Jesus replied: LOVE the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. ~Matthew 22:37

Be sure to read surrounding verses in your Bible for a better understanding of the complete context.

Wednesday, November 21, 2018

Six Life Lessons from an Old Log Cabin

Six Life Lessons from an Old Log Cabin

How renovating an old, rundown place ended up restoring her life after divorce
by Roberta Messner

The divorce, at midlife, left me disillusioned, hurt and afraid.  After 24 years of marriage, my dog Spanky and I started life anew in a century-old log cabin I purchased “as is,” which just so happened to be the same condition the cabin found me in—very ill, with a brain tumor that had returned.  Never had I felt more alone.

Time had forgotten the rundown place.  Virtually every surface needed renovation.  As I began the intense rehab on my home of yesteryear, God started his work on me, too.  Turns out, in His good time, we were both restored.  Here’s what I learned:

1. Listen to your heart.  When I hired a contractor to refinish my hardwood floors, he quipped: “Do yourself a favor, Lady, and strike a match to this old shanty.”  But I adored those heart pine boards and knew they could be revived to glorious effect.  The same went for taking a crowbar to the drywall, revealing the original chestnut logs harvested from the property.  Ditto for me.  Folks would quote statistics about what happens to a woman after divorce.  Their grim predictions were unsettling.  With God’s help, I learned to ignore them and invest in His plan for my life instead.

2. Celebrate the era you’re in.  When I asked the cabin what it wanted, I learned it needed timeworn treasures popular at the end of the 19th century.  It didn’t want to be something it wasn’t.  This taught me to celebrate my own era as well, and to take care of my health— the emotional, physical and spiritual, too.  I was in my early forties, in the middle place of life.  It was a time for looking back and looking forward.

3. Less can be a whole lot more.  At first, I was so excited to own an antique house. I bought everything that charmed me at flea markets and estate sales.  Soon, I had so much stuff, there was no place to rest the eye.  The cabin was suffering from a lack of white space just like my life.  God taught me to pare down my possessions and commitments to include only those things I loved the most.  We both flourished.

4. Always look for the story.  Whenever I purchased a step-back cupboard or pie safe, I asked the seller to tell me its history.  Knowing that an old farmer crafted a table from wood he had on hand added to the experience and made me less concerned with perfection.  The same went for people.  I began to accept their weaknesses more and to include those different than me in my circle of friends.  Everyone, I found, has a great story tucked inside their heart.  If I engaged them in conversation and eased in the right questions, I usually found it.  My world grew and I felt less alone.

5. Don’t discount unexpected places or people for solutions.  Some of my best finds for the cabin have come from the curb on trash day or a dumpster.  I also became more open to hiring our culture’s “throwaway” people.  A trustworthy, disabled guy was the strongest mover of furniture I ever had.  He also had great ideas and became a dear friend.  And when I needed another helper, I took a friend’s stellar recommendation on a recovering alcoholic.  He encouraged me at every turn—reported to work early and left late, refusing to take any extra money.

6. You’re never alone if you have God on your side.  I moved in in September, and come Halloween night, the cabin still was not terribly secure.  I climbed into bed with a headache, my arms around Spanky.  My room was on the front of the house, and I could hear the kids come and go, only to find the lights out.  Keep us safe, Lord, I prayed over and over, fearful that I’d fall victim to property damage or a break-in.  The next morning, when it was time to go to work, I couldn’t find my car keys.  Searching the cabin to no avail, I checked my car.  Nothing.  When I returned to the cabin, I found my car and house keys in the door lock.  God had kept me safe and sound, despite my foolishness.

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Five Ways to Avoid and Repair Relationship Strain When Caring for a Loved One

Five Ways to Avoid and Repair Relationship Strain When Caring for a Loved One

Take steps to prepare for the changes in your relationship when you care for a loved one
by Julie Hayes

Caregiving for your loved one involves a host of challenges, not least of which is the shift that occurs in the relationship dynamic between the two of you. This is a factor whether you are caring for a spouse, offspring, brother or sister or a friend. On the upside, the caregiving experience can strengthen and deepen your bond. On the opposite side of the spectrum, the responsibilities of caregiving can strain even the closest relationship. There are things you can do as a caregiver, however, to keep stress at bay and avoid potential pitfalls, in order to improve your overall wellness and that of your loved one.

If relationship strain caused by caregiving has become an issue for you and your loved one, it is crucial to find ways to rekindle and maintain the good aspects of the emotional bond you had to begin with, and even to build upon them. Studies show that the quality of your relationship with the loved one you care for is one of the most important variables in the degree of the negative effects of burden you may experience as a caregiver, such as depression, poor physical health and high mental strain. A close relationship can also improve your loved one’s satisfaction with the care they receive, as well as their physical and mental wellness (Jeanne R. Snyder PhD (2000) Impact of Caregiver-Receiver Relationship Quality on Burden and Satisfaction, Journal of Women & Aging, 12:1-2, 147-167).

Below are some ways to help you both avoid and repair relationship strain that has been brought on by the stresses of caregiving:

1. Allow yourself respite time for a better perspective 
When you don’t take breaks from caregiving, you can quickly become tired, overburdened and unhappy, and these turbulent emotions can spill over onto your loved one. Giving yourself some respite can go a long way to reduce your feelings of burnout, exhaustion and isolation, and give you the opportunity to gather your thoughts and emotions. Find workable times you can set aside for relaxing activities or hobbies, or take time to rest. You can ask someone else in the family or a friend to step in to briefly take over your responsibilities while you take a break. You can also find programs and services that support caregiver respite by using the U.S. Administration on Aging’s Eldercare Locator.

2. Be more sensitive when communicating
Proper communication is key to heading off and resolving relationship strain. Keep the following tips in mind:


  • Be patient. Don’t interrupt when your loved is phrasing thoughts. Wait to respond until he or she is finished speaking
  • Try not to raise your voice or speak in an angry tone.
  • Use tact when bringing up difficult topics, but do not avoid them altogether as this may lead to stress in the future.
  • Save conversations that can wait until the person is feeling well rather than tired, upset or stressed out.
  • Use a close friend or relative as a sounding board instead of unloading your negative emotions on your loved one. If you think you need additional help, consider scheduling an appointment with a counselor, or enrolling in a program such as BRI Care Consultation™to help you manage your loved one’s care.


3. Take your loved one’s preferences into account
Your loved one may not agree with many of your caregiving choices, which may result in distress or frustration. Make an effort whenever you can to consider the person’s preferences and respect what he or she values most. Ask yourself, “What matters most to my loved one?” Whether it’s independence, safety, participation in especially meaningful activities, not being a burden or having a say in who helps with certain tasks, be sure to reflect these values in the care you provide.

4. Separate the disease from the person
Keep in mind that people who have dementia or another chronic health condition that may lead to challenging behaviors are being affected by something outside of their control. It is understandable to be angry at the disease, but taking it out on your loved one may only upset and confuse him or her. It is also important to recognize that difficult behavior is often a form of communication, and listening and trying to determine what someone needs may solve the concern faster than getting frustrated or upset.

5. Accept help
If you are still struggling to maintain a positive relationship with your loved one, do not be afraid to seek outside help. Many caregiver support groups offer a safe environment in which to discuss your concerns and frustrations with peers who may be undergoing similar challenges. Caregiver coaching programs, such as Benjamin Rose Institute on Aging’s BRI Care Consultation™, can also assist you in finding solutions to your concerns, and access community resources that can provide additional support.

Meb Keflezighi: A Marathoner’s Strong Finish

Meb Keflezighi: A Marathoner’s Strong Finish

The decorated Olympian honored his gift to run until the very last finish line.
by Meb Keflezighi

Mile 12. The 2017 Boston Marathon. I was cruising, a mile short of the halfway point in one of the most prestigious races on the planet. Besides the Olympics, it doesn’t get any bigger. For once I’d done everything right. The diet. The training. My mental and spiritual focus.

The fans along the tree-lined streets of Wellesley, Massachusetts, were cheering like crazy: “Let’s go, Meb!” “USA! USA!” I’m no longer surprised at people recognizing me. I’d run marathons since 2002, the only runner to have finished first in New York and Boston and medal at the Olympics.

No American man had won here in more than three decades before I crossed the finish line in 2014, the first Boston Marathon after the horrific bombings. A few days before the race, I met the Richard family, who had lost their eight-year-old son. Their strength inspired me. Even for someone used to the spotlight, it was an unforgettable experience. God’s hand had surely been working through me.

Now I was back. At 41, I was way older than the other elites. Still, a top-three finish seemed possible. I was firing on all cylinders, almost to Wellesley College, where the students mass along the route, hollering like mad—the Scream Tunnel, it’s called.

Just before a little hill, the runners ahead of me began to pick up the pace. No problem. I pumped my legs harder. But the other runners pulled farther away. Pick it up. I had nothing. There was no soreness. No tightness. My quads were just dead. Like a car stuck in second gear.

I pray constantly when I run. Running 26 miles is mentally and physically taxing for even the most experienced runner. Every time I take it on, I vow never to do it again. Every muscle in my body aches. It’s days before I’m able to walk normally again. But exhaustion wasn’t usually an issue until the last two or three miles. I still had half the race to go. Like any marathoner, I’d lost way more than I’d won. I didn’t expect God to give me a victory every time. But I’d always been competitive. Until now. Lord, I’m done. I can’t do this anymore.

Growing up in San Diego, California, I’d never imagined myself as a world-class runner. I’d been born in Eritrea, a small war-torn country on the Horn of Africa. We lived in a stone hut with no running water, no electricity. When I was five, my father—a freedom fighter in a war against Ethiopia—had fled for his life. He’d walked 225 miles over seven days to get to the Sudan—the equivalent of a marathon every day for a week.

Seven years later, we immigrated to the United States. “God has great plans for you,” my father said. He insisted my siblings and I excel at school. He woke us up at 4:30 a.m. to study.

I’d been in America for a year when my seventh-grade gym teacher said, “Today we’re going to run the mile. Do your best and I’ll give you an A.” I finished first. The teacher stared at his stopwatch. “You ran a 5:20 mile…without any training,” he said. He called the high school coach. “We’ve got a future Olympian here.”

I kept winning races, in high school and college, at UCLA, running 5Ks and 10Ks. In 2001, I set the U.S. record for 10,000 meters. My coach convinced me I had potential as a marathoner. I started training and, in 2002, finished ninth in the New York City Marathon. It was November. I was cold, my body stiff, aching. I was miserable. My parents had come to watch. “You don’t need to do marathons,” my mother said.

Two weeks later, I traveled with my mom to rural Eritrea for the first time since I’d left. I watched how people carried water from wells miles away. How they searched constantly for wood for fires for cooking and heat. I remembered again the distance my father walked so we could escape this life. Running was the talent God had blessed me with. I would honor that gift.

Two years later, I finished second in the world at the 2004 Athens Olympics marathon. My hard work had paid off. But when I told people I was a marathoner, they’d say, “You’ve run Boston?”

So that’s what I set my sights on. When my wife, Yordanos, and I were looking to buy our first house, I considered how many hills were nearby, thinking of the Boston Marathon.

I ran Boston in 2006 and finished third, with a time of 2:09:56, more than a minute faster than my Olympic time. I got why Boston was such a big deal. The hills, a steep drop at the start and the legendary Heartbreak Hill at Mile 17, were killers. But what really set it apart were the crowds lining the course almost the entire way: loud, raucous, seriously into it. For the first time, I wore a USA jersey and a bib with my first name. I felt part of something way bigger than me, like I was being welcomed into an entire community, all of us bonded by a love for running and country.

Now, in 2017, as I entered the Scream Tunnel, I needed that encouragement more than ever.

The races that followed that first Boston Marathon were some of the toughest of my career. Seven months later, I finished in twentieth place in New York City after having food poisoning. Then at London I dropped out when my Achilles tendon began bothering me, the only marathon I ever quit. I struggled through two marathons after that. I thought about retiring. I suffered a pelvic stress fracture. I was 33. The average age of an elite marathoner was 29. Was I past my prime?

I prayed on it and searched deep within myself. I felt as if God still had plans for me. I had to get smarter. For a time, I quit running and took up water aerobics. I met some amazing older folks who inspired me with their own determination. I went to the Olympic Training Center in Colorado Springs. I was more careful about what I ate. I designed my workouts to be kinder to myself. I took more time off, seeing the value of resting my body. I focused on consistency rather that pushing myself harder. One of the best tips came from Yordanos. “You’re too aggressive at the beginning,” she said. “Pace yourself.”

Late in September 2009, I woke with a start. “I dreamed I won the New York City Marathon,” I told Yordanos. She looked at me sympathetically.

“You haven’t heard,” she said. At a British half marathon that morning, two runners from Kenya and Morocco had set a blistering pace, faster than I could run.

I thought about the changes I’d made. New York was two months away. “They’re peaking too soon,” I said. “I’ll be ready.”

That November, I won the New York City Marathon, just as I had in my dream, 40 seconds faster than my third-place finish in Boston three years earlier. Then came a first-place finish in the 2012 Olympic trials, then that incredible day in Boston in 2014. All those people cheering me on. Age was just a number, I told myself. I felt invincible!

How wrong I had been. I felt as if I were 81, not 41. Somehow I managed to keep going, through the Newton Hills, over Heartbreak Hill, past Boston College. At last I made it to Boylston Street, in the heart of Boston. The crowd was six, seven people deep, everyone calling my name. “You’re the man, Meb!” “Go get ’em, Meb!” It was as if they didn’t even realize how badly I was doing. I crossed the finish line in thirteenth place, with a time of 2:17, more than eight minutes slower than my victorious run just three years earlier.

I saw the Richard family and ran over and hugged them. “Great race!” they said. “Thanks,” I said, forcing a smile.

Flying home, I dissected each mile of the race, looking for what I could’ve done differently. “You’ve had a great career,” Yordanos said. “Be proud of what you’ve accomplished and thank God.”

Thankful? For thirteenth place?

I thought about the crowds. The incredible support they’d given me every time. They didn’t care how I did. They’d carried me across the finish line. Yes, being a marathoner was about something way bigger than me. It was about inner strength, perseverance, discipline, faith. The same traits I’d admired in my father. The people of Eritrea. And the survivors of the Boston bombing. It took me coming in thirteenth to understand what it all meant. God had blessed me in ways I could have never imagined as a boy in Africa. It was up to him how I used my gift.

Seven months later, I ran my last marathon, my 26th, in New York City. I finished eleventh out of 50,766, but this time I didn’t mind. I’d done my best, just as I had that day in seventh-grade gym class. That’s what mattered. I’ve retired from professional running, but I haven’t left the sport. I serve as a race ambassador at marathons, encouraging amateurs and pros alike, and even running the occasional charity marathon. For me, it’s a kind of ministry, a way of paying forward all the people who were there for me.

Monday, November 19, 2018

Nine Inspirational Quotes for Caregivers

Nine Inspirational Quotes for Caregivers

Caregiving is such a special, challenging and rewarding opportunity to show God's love to others. Allow these words of encouragement to lift your spirit and give you strength for your journey.

"God has enough grace to solve every dilemma you face, wipe every tear that you cry, and answer every question you ask." --Max Lucado

"The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain." --Dolly Parton

"Never hold on to anything tighter than you're holding on to God." --Jeffrey Demenna

"If you can't fly, run; if you can't run, walk; if you can't walk, crawl; but by all means keep moving.” --Martin Luther King, Jr.

"I never knew God was all I needed until God was all I had." --Debbie Smith

"When I was at the end of my rope, God was holding the other end." --Patricia Balcom

"Faith does not come from striving; it comes from surrender." --Bill Johnson

"Fear says we can't. Faith says we can." --Wanda McDaniel

"What God brings you to, God takes you through." --Rev. Sharon Connors

Sunday, November 18, 2018

Ten Bible Verses for Alzheimer's Caregivers

Ten Bible Verses for Alzheimer's Caregivers

Caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's can be overwhelming. We hope you'll find strength, comfort and inspiration in this slideshow featuring uplifting Bible verses for caregivers.

John 14:27
"Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid."

Psalm 71:12
"O God, be not far from me; O my God, make haste to help me!"

1 Corinthians 13:7
"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

Psalm 90:17
"May the grace of the LORD our God rest upon us and confirm the work of our hands upon us; yes, the work of our hands, confirm Thou it."

Psalm 46:1
"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble."

Colossians 3:15
"And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful."

2 Corinthians 4:16
"We are not discouraged. Even though our outer nature suffers decay, our inner nature is renewed day after day."

Philippians 2:13
"God is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure."

Psalm 55:22
"Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall."

Colossians 1:11
"May you be strengthened with all power according to His glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy."

Saturday, November 17, 2018

An Alzheimer's Caregiver Learns a New Way to Love

An Alzheimer's Caregiver Learns a New Way to Love

Her husband's diagnosis of early-onset Alzheimer's presented a daunting challenge, but she learned to be the caregiver he needed.
by Luanne Bole-Becker

Our lost year. Looking back, that’s what I consider it, that first year after my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. A gerontologist at the Cleveland Clinic broke the news to us one afternoon in January 2012. “Bob has what’s known as early-onset Alzheimer’s,” he told us.

I was stunned. Yes, Bob had been having some memory lapses and uncharacteristic moments of anger—worrisome enough that he’d undergone neurological testing at the clinic—but I thought it was because he was spreading himself too thin with work, volunteering and his Bible study at church. He’d never had major health issues. There was no history of dementia in his family. And he was only 58!

You’ve probably heard people say 60 is the new 50. Bob and I definitely felt that way. We were in the prime of our lives. Our two sons were grown, and this was supposed to be our time to pursue our own interests. There was still so much we wanted to accomplish.

That’s why both of us worked multiple jobs. Bob loved his career in broadcasting. He had a number-one-rated radio talk show on WTAM every Saturday morning. Once a week he hosted the Ohio Lottery drawing on live TV—everyone in Cleveland knew him for that.

I was a manager for a nonprofit organization that served refugees resettling in our area. Then there was the creative work we were proudest of—the videos and award-winning documentaries we made together.

Even though we were partners, we each focused on the aspects of the business that we did best. I handled the research and writing. Bob was the cameraman, editor and all-around tech guy.

Whoever was most passionate about a particular project would take the lead on it. I was in charge of a documentary about the stories in quilts. Bob drove the ones about baseball in Cleveland. Our offices were across the hall from each other, but we got together when we needed to.

That was also the secret to our successful marriage of 37 years: Each of us was able to maintain independence and find fulfillment within our partnership. We weren’t attached to traditional roles in our marriage.

Bob always encouraged me to pursue my professional goals, and he didn’t shy away from housework or taking care of the boys. He was even willing to put my career ahead of his. When I was working with a nonprofit based in Washington, D.C. (and commuting there regularly), our older son was in kindergarten only half days. Bob watched him the rest of the day so I could focus on my job.

Honestly, Bob was more of a natural caregiver than I was. He was that ideal mix of optimistic, dependable and easygoing. Nothing ever seemed to faze him. If the boys acted out, if some glitch happened on air, if I got aggravated, Bob rarely showed a hint of frustration (that’s why I got concerned that he’d started yelling lately when he misplaced something or couldn’t load a program).

I wasn’t even-keeled like that. I was prone to worrying, overthinking things and getting overwhelmed.

Which was exactly what happened after Bob received his diagnosis.

“I can’t say with certainty how quickly his memory and cognitive abilities will decline,” the Cleveland Clinic specialist continued. “Every patient is different. There are medications that may slow the disease. But there will come a point—sooner rather than later—when Bob won’t be able to work. Eventually he will likely need full-time care.”

Bob nodded, looking pensive. Did he understand the ramifications of what the doctor was saying? I couldn’t tell.

I felt sick. The work Bob loved depended on his verbal fluency and quick thinking. How incredibly cruel that those were the skills Alzheimer’s was already eroding. Even someone as easygoing as Bob would be devastated to lose the career he’d devoted himself to for decades. And if he broke down, that would break me.

The drive home was a blur. It was only mid-afternoon but I went straight to bed. I didn’t want to move. Didn’t want to think about what was going to happen to Bob, to us.

Bob sat beside me and held my hand. “What’s wrong?” he asked. There he was, putting me first, trying to take care of me, like always. That made me feel even worse. I pressed my face into my pillow. I wanted to be alone with my tears. But I couldn’t tell Bob that.

Soon after, I told my boss I needed to take an indefinite leave of absence. I felt I had to fill him in on Bob’s diagnosis, but I kept it a secret from everyone else. If Bob’s condition became public knowledge, I was pretty sure he’d be let go. Our health insurance came through his job with the lottery, and we couldn’t afford to lose it or our primary income just yet. I had to come up with a plan.

But I couldn’t. I was paralyzed by anxiety and depression, unable to figure out what to do first. Should we try to work more while Bob was still able, to build a financial cushion? Or less, because of the added stress? What were our medical choices? What were we legally bound to tell Bob’s employers?

Bob was happy most of the time. He never missed his weekly Bible study. He was still going to work at the television studio and the radio station. I was thankful for that. But part of me was waiting for the other shoe to drop. When would he make a mistake on the air? Would he end up being publicly humiliated? I could tell he wasn’t quite on top of everything—could others?

Meanwhile, I was barely functioning. Some days I would lie in bed, replaying what the doctor had told us. Sooner rather than later. Those words echoed in my head like a death knell. The death of the future Bob and I had imagined. The death of the wonderful, creative work we did together. It was as if I were grieving an incalculable loss, one that hadn’t happened yet but I knew was inevitable.

I couldn’t talk to Bob about it. Our sons knew about his diagnosis, but I didn’t want to burden them with my issues too. I couldn’t tell our friends what was going on. I’d never felt so alone.

One evening Bob came home from drawing the lottery numbers and found me crying. His cheerful expression collapsed. “You’re sad all the time, Luanne,” he said. “How come I can’t make you feel better?”

His distress cut through the haze I’d been living in. These days Bob’s mood was heavily influenced by mine. No matter how sad I felt, I couldn’t let depression overwhelm me. I couldn’t bring him down.

My most important job now was to be Bob’s caregiver. Not something that came easily or naturally to me. God, help me to be the kind of partner Bob has always been in our marriage, I asked. To put him first. To give him the care, comfort and love he needs.

I went into research mode. I looked up everything I could online. I called the local chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association. The woman who answered told me Bob could qualify for Social Security through a program that extends benefits to people with chronic diseases. She took down our address to send us some brochures.

“We also have a support group for people with early-onset Alzheimer’s and their spouses,” she said. “You could get a lot of good information there.”

A support group? I didn’t think I could handle sitting around talking about our problems. I’d just get more depressed. I needed to be active, to do something.

From what I’d read, activity would be good for Bob too. That became even more imperative when he lost his job at the radio station as part of a companywide downsizing in March 2012. Then the lottery decided not to renew his contract.

That was somewhat of a relief because I didn’t have to worry so much about hiding his condition. I searched for ways to fill Bob’s day productively, especially while I was at work (I had gone back part time).

I looked into an adult day-care program. The people there were in their seventies and eighties. Bob wouldn’t be into playing bingo and singing songs from our parents’ generation. The Alzheimer’s program at a local nursing home was more promising—people took turns reading aloud and doing simple math problems to maintain cognitive function.  Unfortunately it was only for nursing-home residents.

I looked for volunteer work Bob could do, like walking dogs at the animal shelter. But it was too complicated for him to learn which dogs were safe to walk and how to record the walks in a log.

We began to tell friends about Bob’s Alzheimer’s. They were really supportive, but it wasn’t as if they were free during the week to spend time with him. They had demanding jobs. They were still in the prime of their lives.

That might have been the biggest challenge—transitioning from a very busy, work-focused lifestyle to a much slower one with little stimulation. I couldn’t come up with enough activities to keep Bob occupied. Sometimes I felt trapped at home, and then I felt guilty, as if I was failing as a caregiver. His Bible study was the one respite I got each week.

Going through the materials the woman at the Alzheimer’s Association had sent I came across a note about the support group she’d mentioned. Bob was a people person. He might enjoy the social interaction. At least it was something new we could try.

The group met at a senior center. “I’m so glad you’re here,” Sally, the coordinator, said. “Let me introduce you to everyone.”

Bob was way ahead of her. He went up to a man sitting at a table and stuck out his hand. “I’m Bob Becker,” he said. “Nice to meet you.”

The man’s eyes widened. “I know that voice,” he said. “You’re really him! Bob Becker. I can’t believe it. I’ve been listening to you for years.”

Bob sat down next to him. His whole persona seemed to brighten. We hadn’t been here two minutes and already he’d connected with someone.

There were about 15 of us. Sally asked those with Alzheimer’s, almost all men, to sit in a circle with their spouses behind them. She made eye contact with each of the men and asked, “Tell me something funny you’ve heard.”

“My doctor said, ‘If you’re going to write that novel, now’s the time,’” one man said, chuckling.

“You have to laugh,” another man said. “There’s just so much great material.”

Bob leaned forward, listening, engaged in the conversation.

I looked on in wonder. These men weren’t being ignored, talked down to or pitied. The focus was on them, and they were responding. They felt accepted. Valued.

We moved on to how we could better communicate with our spouses. Tips like speaking in a calm, soothing voice. Going slowly, using simple sentences, not paragraphs. Asking what they wanted to do instead of deciding for them. It was so freeing to let down my guard and discuss my struggles openly.

The other couples talked about activities they did together, trips they were taking. Of course there was frustration. Heartache, even. But their lives weren’t over. Far from it.

Hope surged through me for the first time since Bob’s diagnosis. We weren’t alone in this. I could learn from the others in our group and be the caregiver my husband needed. We could live again.

And we have. Just a few days after that meeting, Bob and I went to the zoo. We hadn’t been there since our boys were little. We took our time, strolling hand in hand, like teenagers on a date. Bob took it all in, laughing at the monkeys’ antics, counting the penguins, reading aloud the fun facts that were posted.

At each fork in the path, I asked him what he wanted to see next. It was a wonderful day. I didn’t feel like a caregiver. I felt like a wife.

We’ve gone so many places since then, sometimes with friends from our support group, sometimes just the two of us. The art museum. The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. Bowling. Bob and I even took our dream trip to Alaska.

We’re more active now than before the diagnosis. We volunteer together, delivering meals to the elderly. Once a week, we visit that nursing home with the innovative Alzheimer’s program, where I work with two residents and pick up techniques I use with Bob at home.

I no longer feel trapped, even as Alzheimer’s takes its inexorable toll. Bob rarely speaks now. He’s more easily agitated. We rely on our faith even more to bring us peace. Before breakfast, we read from God Still Remembers Me, a book of devotions written by Paul Hornback after he was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s.

We listen to music: the Beatles, the Who, Peter Gabriel. Sometimes we hold each other and sway to the beat. These little moments are when I feel closest to Bob, as close to him as I have ever felt.

“You two seem more like a married couple now than before,” a friend said recently.

I know what she means. Bob and I have lost so much to Alzheimer’s. It truly is a devastating disease. Yet it has also been an unexpected blessing. Instead of each of us running off on our individual pursuits, we have had this time together to discover a new way to love. And to live.